Announcement... We're Both Engaged!

Who would have ever thought that the two girls that started the blog promoting independence, loving yourself, and ideas and projects to keep you too busy to wonder where Mr. Right is are both engaged? Yep, it happened, Caroline and I are both engaged. We have both found incredible men, and we are both in the process of planning weddings and rearranging our lives to accommodate the men we love. We want to share these moments with you and bring you into our lives. If you want to know about our relationships... Keep reading.


Kayla's Engagement Story
Let me start by saying that I expected this day to happen about as much as the rest of the world did, which was very little. I had learned to accept and appreciate being single, and then God put this man right in front of me. I couldn't walk away. He was everything I had every prayed for and more. It's like God finally said, "He's now ready for you, and you are now ready for him. You're welcome." I could not begin to tell you how thankful I am for the fact that God is trusting me to be this man's wife. James has one of the biggest hearts of anyone I've ever met. He makes me laugh like a kid, he loves me unconditionally, and his family has accepted me with open arms. Our relationship is full of practical jokes, encouraging and supporting each other, and enjoying life together. We are keeping God at the center of our relationship. We have began a 52 week devotional and we are going to finish it before we get married next March. It is really bringing us closer to our Lord and each other. Ok, now what you've been waiting for... the engagement story...


James had told me we were having dinner with his parents so I began to get ready. I was upstairs drying my hair when he came over. He asked me to come downstairs for a minute where he gave me a card. (This is not unusual for him so I wasn't expecting anything.) Little did I know inside of the card was a key. A key 'to his heart' so to speak. In my kitchen was the lock that had the most beautiful diamond on it. He opened the lock, got down on one knee, and asked me to be his wife. I can't tell you his exact words because I was so shocked that I really don't remember. It was perfect for us. It was just he and I in the kitchen of my house, which will be our house come next March. It was creative, personal, and the most wonderful day. I couldn't be more excited to spend the rest of my life standing beside this man. James was  shocked that I didn't cry, and quite frankly so was I. I always cry and all my friends know that. When he proposed I ended up laughing for about 3 hours instead. My face literally hurt from smiling and laughing uncontrollably. Hey, my reaction was strange, but I couldn't control it. Did I mention the diamond in my ring came from his mother's engagement ring??? She gave me her diamond and we had it set in a new band. Needless to say I squalled like a baby. I have never felt more loved, accepted, or appreciated for who I am. This is only the beginning, and trust me when I say I can't wait to see what's to come.


Also, we are remodeling my house. Stay tuned for before and after pictures. Also, check back soon for Caroline's engagement story!
Love,
Kayla

Caroline's Engagement Story

Just like my dear friend said above, I think people expected me to get engaged and find love about as much as I expected it for myself... never ever. About a month or so before my soon to be husband, Todd, and I met I had told God I was perfectly fine with being single for the rest of my life. The difference between saying it that time verses four years ago, is that I actually meant it this time... But God had better plans. That's when the one and only Todd Holman asked me on a date. 

Todd and I went to the same high school but he was a few years ahead of me, so I never got the chance to get to know him... but boy do I remember thinking he was the cutest thing I'd ever laid eyes on. Fast forward 10 or so years later to the day he asked me on a date, because mutual friends said we might be a good match. My initial thought was, "Absolutely not. I remember this guy! Football player, Shady McShady, womanizer, out of my league.... etc, etc." Little did I know, he actually is the complete opposite of womanizer and shady and happens to be the most gentle and respectful man I know. I decided to go on a date and give Holman a chance, and the rest is history, except for the funny part where a cow C-section ruined the engagement. (This is not a joke).

The weekend that Todd asked me to spend forever with him I got stuck being "on call" for my job working with a Veterinarian. When I'm on call, there is about a 10% chance I will actually have to assist with an emergency animal situation that takes longer than an hour or so. Taking his chances, Todd had planned to propose to me this particular evening. To make a long story short, I'm elbow deep in a cow's stomach assisting with a C-section when I feel my phone buzz. Once I got cleaned up, I checked my phone to find a message from Todd explaining how upset he was that I couldn't make it to dinner. I had NO idea that he had set up the most perfect evening for me so that he could propose.... How's that for bad luck?

The very next week Todd told me to meet him at his grandparent's house for dinner. I showed up to the most beautiful candle light dinner which he set up on the mountain over looking our hometown. We watched the sunset, laughed about finally having a date night to ourselves, and he asked me to walk to the edge of the overlook with him to finish watching the sunset. (I may or may not have joked about pushing him off the bluff, totally oblivious to the fact he was about to ask for my hand in marriage. Sorry babe). He got on one knee and I immediately started crying, which instantly turned into an excited scream of something along the lines of, "ARE YOU FOR REAL? WE'RE DOING THIS?! YES! YES!" We spent the next few hours celebrating with family.

Being in love and finding "the one" has been one heck of a ride for me. Most of our date nights have been entertaining my precious daughter Adalee (who happens to think Todd hung the moon), a couple of hours here and there binge watching Netflix, and lots of late night dinners after a 12 hour shift, but Todd never complained. Never compared our relationship to any body else, never asked me to bend over backwards to make our relationship meet the world's standards of a perfect relationship. We've kept God in the center and continue to do so because after all, He's the one who put this hunk of a man in my life for forever. 

One of my closest friends and I went out for dinner tonight and she said, "I hope I find a Todd Holman. Every girl deserves a Todd Holman." I couldn't agree with her more. Every woman deserves a man who honors her, encourages her, builds her up when she makes mistakes, laughs with her, respects her, offers countless messages after a long day, supports her dreams and accepts her flaws (because I have enough to go around), and as much as I hate to admit it, puts her in her place when she needs it (ya'll know we need it more often then not so better to accept it now). 

Kayla and I are so excited to start the next stages in our life of wedding planning, remodeling, building, managing time and money, and just down right livin'. We can't wait to share our dos and don'ts in this thing called life. 

-Caroline

Love Is Not Dead, We Are

Let me introduce to you a talented young woman by the name of Deidre Miller. Deidre wrote the following passage as she prepares to write a book which is sure to be incredible. I love that she is letting me share it with you. Her insight and perspective is amazing and her writing is to the point and beautiful. Do yourself a favor and keep reading!

We love because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19) As I sit here on this beach watching the sun rise, my breath is suddenly taken away. I cannot place into words the beauty of this scene before my eyes. I arrived at Folley Beach, South Carolina just in time to encounter this beautiful sight. I knew instantly, God had led me here. I have been struggling with a great deal of a pain within me for a long time. I decided I needed to escape for a while, so I jumped in my car and went to the one place I knew I could clear my head, the ocean. Instantly, I knew, I was meant to reach out to the world. I needed to reach out to those who had experienced "heartache", which was one too many. 

There comes a time in life when we fall in love. Just like this sunrise, ocean breeze, and sound of waves before me, you cannot describe the beauty and passion of love with words. Love is much deeper than words. We cannot control love for someone from developing anymore than we can control the sun from rising each day. When your soul tells you, that is the one, you begin to consume yourself with that specific human. You end up falling so deeply in love that you fail to notice how far you are falling. Love occurs this way because it is unspoken. 

I gaze to my right and notice a young couple. They were watching the same gorgeous scene I had been, but something beautiful occurred. The beautiful girl had her eyes feasted in the sky awaiting the sun to rise. The handsome boy wasn't watching the scene directly; he was watching it through her eyes. Tears began to fill my eyes because that love is so rare. It is so rare that we think it doesn't exist anymore. 

My mother once told me, with love, comes great loss. We must love every single person as if it were the last time you would ever see them again. We are not guaranteed tomorrow. 

With every relationship, we reach a dull or hard time. The devil plots that against us the moment he sees God doing good for our lives. Why is it that we let him win? We live in a world where giving up is so easy. Ask yourself this, what if God gave up and quit loving me? The world would cease to exist as we know it. 

Instead of pushing ourselves through the hard time, we walk away, fall short to temptation, fear love, hate the thought of settling down, and crush hearts every day. 

I always thought I knew what heart ache was all about until my last breakup. Believe me when I tell you, our relationship was as close to perfect as you could imagine. He was my best friend, I spent ninety percent of my time with, I was myself with him, and I fell in love. His love for God set me over the edge. I do not think I will ever come out of this the same way I went in. My soul told me, he is the one. Temptation showed itself into our relationship about six months in, and he fell short. He became torn. Instead of fighting, he gave up. Who knows, maybe he couldn't forgive himself. I asked myself why, became consumed in sadness, quit taking care of myself, and begged God to help and take this pain away. I will return to that in a later chapter. 

God spoke to me and said, "enlighten the world on love, and let me speak of love through you since you are one of the few who believe in love left." I then spoke with some friends and they encouraged me to do so as well, so here I am. 

I only have two rules before we carry on.

• The first rule: do not enter this book with hatred in your heart toward love. You cannot be bitter toward love, say you're better off alone, or that you will never settle down. 

If what I have said to you this far has bothered you, and made you roll your eyes, close this book. You can return to this book when you are ready and less bitter about the word love. 

• My second rule is simple. This book is coming from God. He is speaking through me to you. In order to understand, we must be willing to hear his word, and let him speak. I want you to clear your mind for one moment. Pretend that you have never heard the word love before. 

After you have committed to my two rules, let us define the real meaning of love. 

Love,

Deidre

Spring Cleaning

Over the weekend I had some extra time on my hands and a boyfriend that was generous enough to donate his time and effort to helping me make my yard look beautiful for spring. In one afternoon we converted my pretty boring front yard into a place I can't wait to spend more time in.

The flowers hanging on the left and right side of the porch were a gift from my boyfriend's mother. I hung my bird feeder in the middle because it gives a better view of the birds from the inside of my house, and it keeps everything even looking. (All my fellow OCD people will appreciate that). The chandelier above the bed is one of my favorite details as well. It came from an old junk store in town and I painted it and hung some pearls and gems from it. It gives an excellent bohemian touch.

This bird bath came from Lowe's and was the last one they had. Since it was out on display we were able to talk them down on the price by 20%. Yes, you can negotiate with Lowe's. I don't like paying full price for anything. The white rock was a nice touch around the bird bath, but my landscaper might hate me for putting it there. (Sorry, Adam)

This is the view from my door. I have a small fern sitting on either side of the door in a turquoise pot. It matched the wreath on the door which I didn't even notice until I got it all set up. I love when things just come together!

The front two coral/ green pillows came from a yard sale as well. I love this daybed outside for reading or just enjoying the weather. Fortunately my house is faced at the perfect angle and rain never blows under the porch so the bed stays dry. I would recommend checking on the weather at your home before investing in something like this.

This wreath would be super easy to make, but I'll admit I didn't make mine. I found this wreath at a yard sale. The original cost was $5, but my boyfriend only handed me $3 and told me to do get a deal. Believe it or not, they accepted my $3 offer, and now this wreath matches perfectly on my porch. All the crafty ladies out there could definitely make this, but I doubt you could make it for $3 or less unless you already had the materials. I love it either way.

My favorite weather is bird chirping weather.

-Kayla

Let's Talk Antlers

So recently, after searching Pinterest and seeing some really great and creative ideas, I went and 'borrowed' some antlers from my dad. Fortunately the men in my family hunt so I don't have to buy any fake antlers. I have the real deal. The even cooler part is that my dad can look at every set of antlers and tell you when and where he killed that particular deer. I've shared some pictures below of things that I hope to create in my free time in the upcoming weeks. I'm a big fan of one of a kind pieces, and if these turn out well, I may start taking orders. Check back for updates soon!

The picture below, 'love you deerly' is something I hope to make for my dad for Father's Day. I'm going to attach real antlers where these are painted on and place a picture of our family where the flowers are. I'll post pictures if it comes out ok.

-Kayla

Books I've read so far in 2016: No Spoilers

 Let's get one thing out of the way, I haven't followed the reading list I blogged about a couple months back. I started getting overwhelmed when I actually sat down and started looking at all the books available to be from my local Public Library in e-book format. Yes, they send them right to my kindle. The weather where I'm from has also not been the best. This winter has brought much more snow than anticipated, so I've had much more time to read. My goal for the year is 52 books, but I'm well on my way to surpass that. I might even double it. As of yesterday I've read 13 books this year, and I want to share with you my opinions on them along with the dates that I finished them.

1.     Eleanor & Park by Rainbow Rowell

January 1, 2016

My goal for January 1st this year was to read a book cover to cover in one day. I'm glad I chose Eleanor and Park because it's a wonderful book to start the year out with. Most of us never see what actually happens in people's lives at home outside of work or school, and this book gives an inside look at what some people might be going through. This book will humble you and make you appreciate the family you have. Not only did it keep my attention, but it made me more aware of what people around me might be going through. It teaches of being less self-centered and reaching out to others. You truly never know how good people can be if they receive a little help. There's also a love story mixed in, but I won't spoil it for you.

2. To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee

January 5, 2016

I'm sure everyone knows the story line of To Kill a Mockingbird, but just in case you don't, this book is about two children of an attorney in town that has agreed to represent a black man for a crime against a white woman. Discrimination is a big topic in this book, and it teaches several lessons about life and acceptance of people regardless of age, skin color, education, or occupation. This is a classic, and if you haven't read it you need to do so.... NOW. There is no American classic better than this one. I have the sequel to this book which is called Go Set a Watchman that I plan to start soon.

3. The Liar by Nora Roberts

January 10, 2016

If you know of Nora Roberts than you know this is most definitely a suspenseful book. When a woman's husband goes missing and she finds a safe deposit box full of secrets along with an unbelievable amount of debt she didn't know about she has to start out life again back at her mom's house. She is struggling to fit in back in her home town with her daughter and trying to find answers to all her questions. Clearly, she should have just left her suspicions to herself. I found myself wanting to skip entire pages (I didn't actually do it though) just to see what happened.

4. Maybe this Christmas by Sarah Morgan

January 19, 2016

I'll be honest, if you need a sappy love story that actually has a pretty good story line, this is the book for you. I liked it, but it wasn't my favorite. For some reason I imagined this book having must more depth. If you are just looking for something to read on a snowy day like I was though, this is a good pick. I don't know if I could read this book any other time of year just because it is set around the winter time and a cold climate. A ski lodge to be exact. You'll have to let me know what you think.

5. Let it Snow by John Green, Maureen Johnson, & Lauren Myracle

January 20, 2016

There are three stories in this book. Each one is as good as the last. I would also prefer to read this during a cold time of year such as winter, but the stories are wonderful and put together nicely. This one is pretty high on my list for a winter read!

6. A Paper Bag Christmas by Kevin Alan Milne

January 21, 2016

A friend let me borrow this book, and I am so thankful she did. Get ready to laugh and cry. This book is set in a Children's Hospital around Christmas. Two young healthy boys volunteer at the hospital, and it changes their lives forever. This book also lets you see into the side most of us try not to think about and that is a parent with a terminally ill child. Their life and their needs are no longer the same. This book is heartwarming and just what I needed. You'll be humbled.

7. The Melody Lingers On by Mary Higgins Clark

January 27, 2016

I have a soft spot for Mary Higgins Clark anyway, but this book is amazing. If your looking for suspense this is it! This book has everything from an interior designer, a missing man, embezzlement of billions of dollars, people wanting in on the action at every turn, survivors, love, and a crazy plot twist that I never saw coming.  I seriously never saw the ending coming. I was completely blind sighted, and I loved every minute of it.

8. November 9 by Colleen Hoover

February 5, 2016

No wonder this book has been such a success. It has a great story line. Two young adults meet up on the same day every year. He encourages her to live her life to the fullest after a tragic accident and she encourages him to write a book. This is another book that left me in awe. I never even imagined how these two lives would combine every November 9. I was physically angry at a character in this book if that tells you anything. I recommended it to all of my friends.

9. You by Caroline Kepnes

February 8, 2016

This book is nothing but creepy. Let me advise you not to read this if you live alone or are squeamish in any way. I had trouble getting through this book because of the language used as well so you have been warned. Stephen King actually released a quote saying that this book was thrilling and scary. I don't even have words for this book. It completely freaked me out, but I couldn't put it down.

10. The Library at Mount Char by Scott Hawkins

February 13, 2016

This book is definitely out of character from the rest on this list so far. I found this book on the NYT Best Sellers list and had to read it just because of the title. The first 5 chapters left me scratching my head wondering what in the heck was going on. If it does the same to you just take my advise and KEEP READING. This book is insane and good. I read this in just a couple days. It's hilarious and it has a story line that I have never in my life heard of. I'm sure if I read it again I could find holes in the plot, but as far as I'm concerned it was a good book. This book also has one of my Favorite Characters in it, Erwin.

11. The Husband's Secret by Liane Moriarty

February 14, 2016

There is no better way to describe this book than by it's actual review from the NYT....

"Imagine that your husband wrote you a letter, to be opened after his death. Imagine, too, that the letter contains his deepest, darkest secret—something with the potential to destroy not just the life you built together, but the lives of others as well. Imagine, then, that you stumble across that letter while your husband is still very much alive. . . ."

This book is told my a couple different points of view in order to see the consequences from different perspectives. It took me a few chapters to really grasp each character, but this plot twist is worth the entire story. I would have never thought of that! This book actually gets a little deeper into emotional connections and feelings of guilt and remorse.

12. The Luckiest Girl Alive by Jessica Knoll

February 19, 2016

I CAN'T EVEN..... THIS BOOK.....

This book ripped out all of my heart strings. It physically pained me to read this, but it also had a story that I couldn't put down. This book tells a first hand perspective of being raped and surviving a school shooting. It's brutally honest, its scary, and it's painful to read, but it's SOOOO worth it.

13. Me Before You by JoJo Moyes

February 23, 2016

I finished this book last night, and all day I have been so grateful for what my life has become. More often than not, we look away from people with disabilities and try not to draw attention to it. This book draws complete attention and goes into depth about the struggles of a spinal cord energy and the relationships of those involved in the healing process. It also raises the question of can you ever really heal? With a Dr. Kevorkian twist and a six month limit this book is one you should read. It's not suspenseful or action packed, but it's honest and heartfelt. The movie will come out this summer!

-Kayla

Becoming Annie Oakley

“If you own guns people will call you paranoid, but that’s ridiculous. If I own a gun what the heck do I have to be paranoid for?”

In case you weren’t fortunate enough to grow up in a family of gun lovers like I was, or even if you were but never learned the basics, I’m here to share what my military bother and sweet gun totin’ daddy taught me that were passed down to them.

Going to a gun range and shooting isn’t enough, because learning how to properly handle, carry, and shoot a gun for the right reasons is important. Now I’m not certified to teach a gun shooting class or lessons, but I am here to give some tips and pointers that beginners should know and should always keep in the back of your mind. My dad told me repeatedly, “Never aim a gun at something you don’t intend to shoot.

• Daddy is a wise man. Never point a gun at something you don’t intend to shoot.
•  Confidence is key, but no one is "too good" to make mistakes. 
•  Never store guns and ammo in the same spot and side-by-side, as anyone, possibly the one person you don’t need (children, attacker, etc) could load it and shoot it when stored that way.  Easily accessible for you is a given, but you want to be the only one in your house loading and shooting your gun.
•  Treat every gun as if it’s loaded.
• Get familiar with where the safety on the gun is and how to quickly turn the safety on or off.
• Never hand anyone a loaded gun if not on safety.  Duh, right? What do I mean? Your dad, boyfriend, friends, etc. will ask to see your new pistol. And you’ll want to show it off! Before handing it over, unload it or flip it on safety and point it at the ground, not at the person your handing it to (it’s easy to forget in a moment of excitement and I'm sorry ladies but we can be ditzy).

Next, what type of pistol is good for women? Where do you start when searching for a pistol? I have a few favorites:

1.     First, you’ll want it to fit comfortably in your hands. Go to the nearest reliable gun shop and feel some out. 

2.     Glock 19 9mm Luger. This gun fits great in smaller hands and is also pretty easy to conceal. It has some bells and whistles that other pistols lack.

3.     S&W M&P .38 Special. This gun is a revolver but is awesome for women because it’s so lightweight. It is only about 14 ounces! You can get this gun with a laser which would be ideal for stressful situations when needing to make one quick accurate shot in an attack.

4.     Glock 42. This is one of the smallest of the Glocks and for obvious reasons is great for women. This gun only holds 6 rounds and one in the chamber, but with practice at a shooting range you can get the hang of quickly and carefully changing out magazines. This gun is really fun for just shooting at the range or on the farm for target practice!

It seems like more and more each day I see girls wanting to go out and buy pistols for protection, but there's nothing more dangerous than someone with a gun that doesn't know how to shoot or carry. I am a full supporter of the NRA and the freedom of owning guns. Therefore, I also fully support gun safety. It is something you should always consider a priority when owning or shooting. I personally don’t carry on a day-to-day basis, and only shoot for recreation and/or hunting. But if the need ever arises to carry, I’ll be fully prepared and you should be, too!
-Caroline

Dessert? Yes, Please.

This is going to be an extremely honest post starting with my weight. Let me begin with a disclaimer that by no means do I think that I am fat. The older I get the more comfortable I become in my body as a woman. Also, I am not a nutritionist and I understand that everyone has different things that work for them. That being said here's my story...

Up until the last couple of years I was a complete fitness junkie. I loved weights, cardio, kickboxing, zumba, HIIT training, hiking, you name it. I was a very active person. When you stay that active you can eat much more junk food without it effecting you weight wise. Not that this is healthy for you, but it's true. I was eating anything I could because I was starving all the time.

Things really began to change a few years ago when I purchased my own home. I had fractured my foot not long after moving in, and was wearing a boot for several weeks. In that time frame my body and metabolism completely changed. Yes, my weight went up some, but I began to fill out in all the places a woman should and I loved my new figure. I took some time off from the gym and things were good for about another year when my weight started slowly creeping up, and I was becoming less active. I won't completely blame law school for this, but it definitely didn't help. I was working a full time job and in law school so my life became pretty repetitive. I had a desk job and had to read or study all the time. You know what goes along with studying when you are exhausted? A lot of caffeine and fast food. You know what goes with being tired in the morning and having to commute 2 hours to work? A large coffee and a biscuit. I became addicted to caffeine (which I am still working to decrease my intake of), and I was eating like a freshman in college without a meal card. I had to get my stuff together. After deciding not to return to law school things got a little better. I began running again, and even though I was getting better at it (I even ran my first 5 mile race) I know that running isn't my thing. During the holiday season of 2015 I have become more serious about my weight and my health.

What I've learned so far is that what I weigh doesn't matter as long as I feel good, and I am treating my body properly. I've learned that if you don't splurge you'll go crazy. I've learned to use moderation, be active when I get time (even if it's just doing lunges to the bathroom), and never being negative toward myself or my body. I've accepted the fact that I'm never going to wear a size two pants again not only because that's unrealistic for my height, but also because I don't want to look like that again. I'm a woman now, not a 15 year old girl. Women have curves, women have shape, and women respect their bodies. I will eat healthier if I gain a few pounds and start walking more now that it's warmed up outside, but I will not beat myself up for having a piece of dessert. I enjoy my life. I have recently started yoga and am working on toning up, but the main reason I do it is because it makes me feel good. I feel better about my body, and it completely clears my mind. I say just find something that works for you that you enjoy and do it! If you feel bad about your legs, do lunges. If you feel bad about your stomach, do crunches. As long as you feel good about yourself that's all that matters. Every 'body' is different, but we should all learn to appreciate what we have and embrace it instead of wishing to change it.

 -Kayla